When I was little, my family and I used to visit my cousins because we were very close and we’re around the same age. Their family were doing better than us financially so they had things we didn’t. My brothers were excited to visit them because they’ll get to put their hands on the latest toys. Game console was a hype back then.
There was one visit when I was sad and angry at the same time. As per usual, my siblings and I would get into the house and greet my aunt, uncle and cousins. The boys will then rush to play games. I was left with the rest. Then I heard my brothers chattering – where’s the console? I found the game but how can we play? Cousin, can we play your games please?
Then my cousins told me, they actually hid it because they’re scared that my brothers will spoil their toys. Then, I saw my brothers running to the living room and was trying to politely look for it. I knew exactly where they hid it because they told me but I couldn’t tell my brothers. I knew that it’s not ours to begin with, so we have nothing to fight for. If they’re not willing to share, we can absolutely do nothing.
I learned to respect other’s possession, then. I also learned to not ask for things that is not mine. I learned to protect my brothers’. Since then, I told them not to fancy others. We’ll have to work on our own. They did.
We are now at a position where we put our family first. We trust us more than anyone else. We do because we understand that we come first, the rest comes later. We learned who among the bigger family truly care and who didn’t.
Thank you for the wisdom.