Hit-and-run

I’ve loved cats since as long as I can remember.

I have a few of my own. Precisely, they’re my sister’s cats. However, the whole family loves the cats and call them ours except when we need to do the hard and dirty works. Haha.

I’ve heard and seen a lot of cats killed by reckless drivers. It wasn’t until now that I realise, this shows something.

Two of our cats were hit and possibly driven over by car last few months. They were hit and run cases. I bawled. And so are my sister and mom.

I was so angry. It didn’t make sense for the driver to walkaway and not help the poor creatures at all. I mean, you’re supposed to drive at most, 20km/h in a housing area. With that speed, it’s possible to prevent such incident. I guess and I saw, people are driving at least 60km/h in that neighbourhood. It saddened me so much to see the cats were suffering before they breathed their last breath.

How can a human be so inhumane?

I mean, if you’re ‘scared’ of admitting your mistake, well at least, do it for the sake of the cats. Their lives could have been saved.

Truth is, I find that world is filled with irresponsible people. It’s very hard to find one who is brave enough to confront their mistakes. Everyone is so consumed with themselves that they forget about others. It is time for us to be more conscious of others and not just ourselves.

Till then, may peace be upon you.

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Friends

I’ve always envisioned that we could avoid the peer pressure.

I was, until something unexpected happened.

Someone close to me was caught red-handed smoking in a restricted area. That person was punished. Let’s call that person H.

When I first heard of it, I couldn’t believe that H was guilty. So, I asked the elderly to look into it and somehow, confront the admin/person in charge. I asked too many questions enough to make them spill the beans.

H was indeed wrong. I could feel a sense of losing. Losing a good person who had been guarding himself from such thing. The elderly was tearing and perhaps, was feeling worse than I do.

I had a hard time to digest the situation. Although it wasn’t a serious subject to some, but it was to me and those who are close to me. In some aspect, it symbolised a defeat or failure.

I asked myself, to what extent can a teenager hold himself from being influenced? I’d imagine H was having a hard time stopping himself from smoking when in fact, he was placed in the same room with smoking teenagers. The room mates were chain smoker. I remember the elderly told me that the room was filled with cigar when they first arrived. As a parent, the elderly was worried but due to some unknown reasons, they had no choice but to let H stays there.

I thought H was the end. Nobody I’m close with would ever do it again. I was wrong.

From these cases and plenty other, I could suggest that peer pressure and friends are incredibly important in shaping one’s life.

On a different note, I am asking what can we do to prevent this?

How can we save a teenager from getting involved?

What does it take for the authority to realise that some people are worthy of a stricter surveillance?

I blamed three parties in H case; H himself, the room mates and the authority.

H was guilty for letting his guard down.

The mates were wrong for being jerks who smoked in the room when that is obviously against the regulations.

The authority; for being notorious even when he was informed of the H’s room mates illegal activity.

In short, I hope that teenagers would be able to protect themselves from peer pressure. Looking cool doesn’t mean if you have to do what all kids are doing. Being cool is the ability to differentiate the rights from the wrongs. It’s called maturity.

Stand up for yourself and never let others control you.

Till then, may peace be upon you.

 

Young

Outrageous. Hot tempered. Fast. Impatient.

These are some of the qualities highly associated with youngsters.

I was in school campus and doing my work. Never had I expected that someone would become a celebrity instantly due to messiness.

I had seen this young pal literally living his life in the campus. I suppose, to revise for final. Foods, notes, mug and bag are on the table. Making it an eye sore for most people. Plus, it was rather selfish.

This evening, the librarian, precisely the IT manager took a picture of the infamous table. It looked worse in the photo. So I had to go and see it myself. Well, partly because I needed to print something.

I had mixed feeling.

The poor soul was busy cleaning up the mess. He looked humiliated and betrayed. I was incredibly surprised to see him holding a foldable mattress. I meant, whoa! Where’d he sleep?

Then, the student came to me and suspected that someone must’ve lodge a report. Any normal human being would’ve realised that there are CCTVs watching us in the computer lab. Plus, the librarians and IT technicians are taking turns supervising the room. They’ve sent plenty of emails reminding students not to bring foods and drinks or hold the computer more than 15 minutes when not in used. That is pure common sense. But the student, on the other hand, blame another person.

I told him that there are cameras watching us and it didn’t take much for the librarians or IT technicians to realise the mess. But he denied me and was firm with the thought of being sabotaged. At the end of our conversation, the student ended it with saying it was a f-word up situation.

I bet he was overwhelmed with the instant popularity. I guess being young isn’t cool in that sense. It’s hard to admit our mistakes and we tend to jump into conclusion without having a second thought.

I learnt that it’s easy to loose our judgement when we’re angry and it’s a shame because we don’t realise that it’s us who are guilty.

Until then, may peace be upon you.

 

Hiking

I went to hike, again.

The last time I went hiking was couple of years ago. It wasn’t that high though but it was a good experience for a beginner. But I learnt to hate it because I didn’t like the itchy-tingling sensation whilst going down the altitude. Some said it’s my fat burning but I doubt that.

This time, it’s a different story.

It just felt right to hike after 2 days without exercising. I was not disappointed in that sense. I went there with 4 other friends and the journey to the place itself is almost an hour. Then, we spent another hour and a half to reach the peak. Some of the path is very steep that I felt like giving up but not wanting to be a quitter, I curse my body for being so weak and I ended up reaching the peak. Yeay (?!!)

So, here are a few tips for a beginner, cause I am too.

1. Start early.

Especially if you aim to watch the sunrise. My friends and I started the activity quite late but we still managed to see the sunrise-if seeing it while we’re walking counts. Plus, when you go early in the morning, you’ll feel less tired cause you don’t have to deal with heat from the sun so much. Even if you do, it’s the beneficial natural vitamin D tanning treatment.

2. The lighter, the better.

Some experienced hiker, they don’t bring anything with them. They either jog or cycle, uphill. Which is insane.

But for a beginner, it’s of your best interest to bring water bottle and maybe a small packet of biscuit or energy bar. Trust me, you’re gonna get hungry once you reach the top. I did.

But that is all. Don’t bring extra load because you’d struggle to carry your own weight.

Luckily for us, there’s a guy in our group who had the experience and strength to carry our food. Which brings me to the next point.

3. Don’t go solo.

Unless you’re good at managing yourself and whatever it takes go alone, then skip this point.

Bring your friends together. They’ll help to keep you moving when you feel like quitting. They are there for a reason. I felt extremely exhausted and my steps were so small that I could stop anytime but then, my friend kept on saying, “We’re almost there! Just one more turn.” Yeah, he said that like 10 times and we reach the peak at his 11th time saying it. I was lied 10 times. Excluding lies given by some passersby.

“Uncle, how much longer is the trail?”

“Oh, not much. Another 1.6km to go”

“Uncle, is this it?”

“No child, go a bit higher.”

“(monologue) Nvm, I’ll just keep walking until I see it myself.”

By the way, uncle is just someone who looks like he’s at my father’s age or older. Not related by  blood and it’s a norm from where I come from.

4. Prepare yourself.

Out of the 4 points, this point deserves a detailed attention.

If you have never tried hiking, I’d suggest you try jogging first. If you can keep going at 20 minutes or more, then you’re in for hiking. If not, you’d prolly be a heartache to your mates because you’re gonna annoy them with your question, “Are we there yet?”.

Most importantly, the prep is for your own good. Get ’em muscles some preview of what’s going to happen over the weekend. This way, you can prevent muscle injury. Prepare your heart to pump more blood at once so you won’t faint somewhere in the nature.

Sleep well the night before. Forget late night movies. Give your body an adequate rest for next day hard work. Trust me, it laborious.

Well, basically those are it. Some tips from a newbie.

I feel like it’s a good activity for both body and mind. Your body becomes healthier, due to exercise and unpolluted air breathed in; and your mind becomes stronger because hiking requires mental strength, apart from physical strength, to keep you moving.

Until then, may peace be upon you.

Worth

How much does a relationship worth?

Some are so valuable that they are priceless. These are the relationships we treasure all our life.

On the other hand, there are some which we hope we never have.

Throughout my years in school and university, I’ve experienced both. I’d say that I am loyal to those who treat me well and those who are close to me. But somehow, I was in a relationship where the other is dominant. The friendship was great but at the same time, it was suffocating. It took me a while to realize and have the courage to stand up for myself.

Being younger than my friend was a disadvantage as she knew more than I do. We went to the same educational institution. Hence, she knew the tricks and hacks in the school. I didn’t go to the orientation as she provided me with enough (perhaps more) information. I appreciate her help and was touched by her hospitality. So, we became closer. Closer than any other friend I’ve ever met.

As time passed on, I started to feel uncomfortable. She was starting to control me. I had to report to her on daily basis. I had to text her everyday or else, we’d fight. Which I found to be very childish. I have another close friend and it wasn’t like that with her – we were just there if we ever needed a friend, respect each other’s privacy and we weren’t trying to own one another.

But, I hold it in.

There were times when I tried to speak up for myself. We ended up fighting. Every time we quarreled, I would end up losing and apologizing. Then, I know that this friendship is not going to work until we appreciate mutual respect and understanding. Still, I sucked it in. I feel so pathetic.

For the first time in my life, I discussed friendship-related problem with my parent. This shows how intense it was.

One day, I decided to just let it go. I didn’t want to fight a losing battle anymore. It was when she gave me a cold treatment when I was innocent. Sparing the friendship from unnecessary fight, I offered my apology first and wanted to discuss if ever I did anything wrong. She, on the other hand, was plainly obnoxious. I asked other people if she ever talked about this. True enough, it wasn’t my fault. That is when I decided to call it off.

I wasn’t calling the friendship off but I was calling the bullying off. I didn’t know that it was a form of bully. Though she never hit me, but she was (indirectly) mentally and emotionally abusing me. I still smile when I see her; as an act of courtesy and wishing her well.

Regardless of who we are to each other, there’s no point of wishing bad for the other. After all, she has been a good friend of mine.

People come and go. There’ll be an end to every relationship. No matter how good or bad it was, always pray for the best. If you are in this kind of situation, be brave. Appreciate people around you.

Till then, may peace be upon you.

 

Gym

Today is my first time ever to be in gym WITH an instructor. Plus, the session was free.

I have always wanted to work out in the gym. But it’s either too far from my reach or I am just too shy. In return, I jog at the park. Downside of working out in the park is, the terrible air pollution. I can’t stand cigar. Let alone all the uncivilized acts of spitting and littering.

Back to the topic.

I was playing volleyball with my friends and didn’t sweat much. So I decided to visit the gym. I jog on the treadmill for 20 minutes (reached my target) and saw my colleague doing something with the gym instructor. I decided to watch them and later, join them. The session lasted for one and a half hour. I didn’t realise it was that long.

The session was really an eye opener.

First of all, do not be shy. If you don’t know, ask!

I was exercising wrongly before. I could’ve injured myself. We need to know how to do things properly. For instance, there’s a correct way of doing lunges. All this while, I was just doing stretching and risked my precious knee. Plus, there is also a right posture to work out, proper ways of warming up and burning the fat faster without having to do a full marathon and yet lose nothing.

It’s never too late to do something good. You can always change for the better. Ignore the haters. You live for your own life. You’ll need to decide what is best for you. Well, I’m talking in this sense i.e. taking care of your health. Don’t worry if people call you names. You know that it’s vital to take care of your health.

Last but not least, stop being lazy and get started!

To a healthier life! God bless.

Till then, may peace be upon you.