If you look at the picture, you’d probably more attracted to see the yellow stool. Simply, because it’s the most outstanding and different from the others.
Oxford dictionary: Not the same as another, unlike in nature, novel, distinct.
Some people hate themselves because they think they are unlike the others. They think they couldn’t fit in and will be outcasted for the rest of their lives. Little did they know, they are the sparkles that add up to the norms.
I used to hate my past because that’s not what others have on their CV. I am the only one in the cohort who has this extra thing in my CV. It’s my failure. I hoped to turn back time so that I could make things ‘right’. But, what is right?
Now that I am a more mature and more accepting of what has happened, I see it as a strength. Not everyone experience great failure (but again, it’s subjective). For example, a smart student would have all A’s and never really experience what normal people call failure (which is a FAIL and not a B or C). So, she or he then get to complete school, get a degree and offered a job. It’s pretty straight forward and I have to say, I rather have that journey too.
However, life isn’t always straight forward. We ought to face challenges and for everyone, it’s different. So, we can’t simply say we’re more pitiful than others or our adversity is worse than the others. There is always people who is more unfortunate than us.
Challenges, failures, unwanted events – they are all there to teach us. Life is a journey to improve ourselves. Don’t be afraid to be different because none is the same. Embrace your so-called dark past or even weirdness. Make peace with them and you will have a happier life, God wills.
But then again, as a person who believes in God, there’s always boundary as to how much we can be different and I believe that, as long as it doesn’t go against His will, it’s fine.
Till then, may peace be upon you.